So you want a second chance? (2)

My ex just broke up with me on March 1, 11 days before our 1 year. I was in total shock cause everything was going so well, we never fought, we clicked in everyway. He told me that he is messed up, he needs to be by himself, and i didn't do anything at all. He cried, i cried, he told me that things were going too fast and that he needs time. I have never felt pain like this before, it's so hard not to pick up the phone and call him. Deep down inside i'm still holding on to some hope, but i try to make myself busy. It's been three weeks and he has not even attempted to call me. What hurts is that it's so easy for him to cut me off completely. I think he got freaked cause he heard from someone that i mentioned, in one year a man should know if he wants to be with someone of not...
I have this gut feeling that he'll call, and that maybe he really got scared. I have stopped crying and started to focus more on myself and doing things (like started a course) for myself. Started to go out more... but it's those nights that kill, thinking of him, wondering if he is thinking of me. So reading your message really made me think that the only thing i really need to do focus on is myself, and not wait around for him.. If he comes back that's great but i don't want him to think i'm only sitting around crying over him.


Follow my guideline to a T. If you do, your chances for a reconcilliation will greatly improve.

One thing that may give you some hope is it is more likely for men to come back to women than women to come back to men.

The simple reason for that is women tend to take their time and come to the conclusion to end the relationship with men after much, much thought. Men to do it off the cuff without thinking things through and as such, are more likely to admit they made a mistake.

Women have a much stronger support structure than men. Women have friends that validate their decision. Men don't tend to talk about relationships to the degree women do. That's another reason women tend to stick to their decisions.

Women usually tend to come back to men having been dumped, not the dumper. (thrill of the chase, folks!)

When women are the dumper, odds are they are satisfied with their decision.

Work on the things I mention in the guide. Remember, time is your ally, not your enemy. If your love is true, it will be patient. If it is selfish, it will not.